Life can be hard sometimes. I know this is an odd statement to start with for blog but it is honest.
My life certainly has its twists and turns, and when it does I turn thinking allot.
Recently there have been a lot of truly serious things happening. Close to home are the floods spread throughout the UK and the continued financial instability. Further abroad is the serious unrest whilst Ukrainians struggle for a genuine and freeing democracy. Also Syria, Egypt, Iraq, Libya Pakistan all have militant conflicts and well.. I could just keep listing one place after another that faces their own struggles.
Places that face poverty, corruption, inequality, poor health, lack of funding and resources, power struggles, natural disasters, political unrest, abuse, miscommunications and misunderstanding. All these places represent many people and each person has their own world of challenges. It may seem like one person’s challenge is far less than another’s but when you take the factor of comparison out of the equation each person would probably confess that their struggles are big. This is because difficulties shade our world view and take so much space in our thinking.
Presently in my life I too have my moments of unrest, lack of funding, conflicts, misunderstandings, housing crisis, ill health and .. well.. doesn’t that all sound rather dramatic!
To me it is big, but in all truth it is only one moment of my life.
It is how I perceive things that make them overwhelming. I have realised that thinking it all through is good. However, understanding your circumstances, your needs, your hopes and seeing how that aligns with the reality of what is achievable can be quite a shock!
My brain does not process linearly! If I may steal a Dr Who quote and change it slightly this is what I would say about my thoughts: My mind behaves in a non-linear, subjective way. My thoughts are ‘actually like a big ball of Wibbly Wobbly Timey Wimey … stuff’.
This can be rather useful to me as it means I can see how two truths can be true at the same time. Yes the reality of my circumstances may be harsh, but also yes, this is not big. I do not have to wait for this difficulty to pass before I can enjoy the small things of life, like the warmth of the sun coming in intermittent waves of yellow through my window onto my lap as I type this. The beauty of my family and the love they share with me when other relationships are sometimes a challenge or a chore. The truth that I need to create a source of income, and quick, but I can also believe that it is going to be ok! Enabling me to enjoy my business, building contacts establishing a brand, an ethical vision and giving it the time it deserves to grow strong rather than quickly.
I think what I am trying to say is that I have realised happiness in life for me is not about being perfect or ‘getting there’ or solving things or even doing things!
I have found it is more about a mind-set, a way of thinking. It is not about being right, doing well or what I ought to do.
Do you think that perhaps being you, yep just being you is precious and that out of that place can flow an awful lot of things that you were putting pressure on yourself to be, look like or achieve.
Prioritising love and hope rather than fear and worry, embracing the small beautiful things instead of longing after constant dreams of better and more, could help both me and you to avoid striving, comparison and unhelpful cultural assumptions.
Allowing things to go slow, steady and one at a time could give us, in whatever situation we find ourselves, space for creativity, organisation, prioritising and self-awareness.
Life is beautiful, life is delightful, truly it is!
In amongst all the heaviness there is a way to be that overcomes overwhelm and allows you to have space to be you. Processing the deep things enjoying the small things and flinging off the unhelpful things with abandon! All this helps to face those harsh realities, those dramatic challenges that life brings.
For that is one thing for sure all humankind has in common. We all face challenges whatever size they may be and we all need grace to be in those challenges until our journey has moved passed them and onto the next thing.